Sunday, December 31, 2023

GOA DIARIES - Christmas 2023


 Christmas season makes ticket booking a harrowing experience. Prices skyrocket and it's a mad rush, especially when faced with train tickets that do not budge from their WL status &  sudden cancellations by the bus provider. 

For us it meant booking two tickets aboard the Intrcity to Madgaon. As expected, it was expensive, but what made me choose it, apart from the availability of seats, was the presence of an onboard washroom. Recent reviews for this bus have been good w r.t comfort and punctuality. Am keen to see how they live up to that. 
Pre-journey service was quite commendable, with frequent WhatsApp updates and even a phone call from the Bus Captain, to ensure we'd been informed of the boarding time & location.
The porter stashed our bags into the belly of the bus and we climbed up onto our individual sleepers on the upper berth. The Bus Captain introduced himself and assured us of a comfortable journey and their  commitment to ensure we had a smooth journey. He informed us about use of the washroom and also about the 30min food stop we would be making for a late dinner. 


That done, he left us to enjoy the rest of our journey in peace. 
My berth was comfortable with adequate space and a little fence, of sorts, but I was terribly frightened I might tumble off at every bump in the road. 
Lying there with nothing to do, an image flashed in my mind, like an unwashed negative, that of earlier bus journeys to Goa. 
In those days, video coaches were a big deal, and the bus load of travellers would be all looking forward to the movie played on board, to pass the time. 
The busses if today are much more comfortable, but now that I remember it, I miss those bus-wala cinema experiences. 

Disembarking at Margao KTC Stand on time, what hit us first was the intense heat of the sun doing the best it could on a clear, cloudless afternoon. Hurrying to the car (a rental, already waiting for us), we stowed our bags in the boot and, leaving the car there, crossed the street to Navtara, a veg-restaurant that I know serves good food. 
A short while later, we were driving down the Margao-Colva road, headed towards the Palm Crest Holiday Homes, where we had booked our accomodation. 
The directions given by our Airbnb host, however, were a little unclear, and it took us three failed attempts before we found the right location. 
Situated just off the main road, the apartment is one among many in the complex. It's safe, peaceful & quiet and, its biggest selling point, is the clean & well-maintained swimming pool. 
The apartment itself, while spacious and fairly comfortable, is now the first (and only) entry in my list of 'Airbnb spaces to avoid in India'. 
- Bathroom faucets were jammed and required a daily bout of wrestling to get the water running.
- Hot water was non-existent even with the geyser on. 
- The wire-mesh over the windows were dirty and poorly fitted 
- There were large cockroaches in the kitchen and in the bathroom.
- The place was fairly dusty, with maximum grime collected on the ceiling fans & there were cobwebs on the furniture. 
- Kitchen platform was coated in a thin layer of dust & the gas stove needed cleaning
- By way of toiletries, all that was provided was one small bar of soap & three towels to be shared by two people across five days. 







Day one involved eating Goan sausage-bread and visiting family. Later that evening, we went to Mickey's for dinner with Salvador & Cyprian. Quite popular for food and live music, Mickey's is located near Bollywood Resort at Betalbatim. 
We sat at a table by the beach and placed our order. While waiting for the meal to arrive I decided to focus on the music. One thing was clearly evident - the choice of songs and the singer were both horrid and most unsuited to the ambience & mood of the place. What almost made me laugh was the off-tune singer (hired for the evening) worried over losing his gig on account of equally off-tune patrons who took turns....er.. entertaining everyone. Not sure it was the terrible singing or the sip of rum that egged me on, but I matched to the stage and signed myself up for a song. I don't think I sounded any worse than those before me. If anything, I was an improvement. 


The next day, a Sunday, began with a mass at the Church of Our Lady of Snows, Raia, and a visit to the cemetary. That, for reasons I choose not to elaborate on, made me very happy.
Breakfast was at Caravela, a lovely little café that turned out to be great for the ambience and the food. Their house-blend coffee is quite good and worth a try. I usually choose well when faced with a menu, but this time around, the scrambled eggs with Goan sausages were a mistake. Too eggy in taste and soggy in texture, it left me feeling queasy all day.





We then made our way towards Panjim via the super new flyover that really cuts travel time & is a joy to ride across. In a few moments, we were standing in front of the  Immaculate Conception Church, made famous by virtue of it's beautiful architecture and the numerous movies it has been featured in. A fairly large crowd of tourists were scattered around, braving the scorching heat, clicking pictures, mostly selfies, with varying backdrops of the church, a large decorated Christmas tree and even of the street. Being Christmas Eve, the doors of the church were closed to all visitors, so most had to make do with pictures on its famous steps. 


We made our way, next, to the Basilica of Bom Jesu in Goa Velha. The grounds leading to the Basilica were full of tourists. I was surprised that a troupe of street performers had been permitted to set up shop on the grounds, just a short distance outside the main entrance of the church. An increasing line of visitors was steadily snaking its way in through the side entrance. Unlike previous visits here, most of the Basilica and its art gallery were not open to visitors. We could only walk in a single file to one side & see what could be seen as we moved ahead, stopping only to pray at the shrine housing the mortal remains of St. Francis Xavier. 


Next was a brief visit to Sé Cathedral across the street, followed by some photographs at the mercifully uncrowded ruins of St.Augustine. Was impressed with the restoration and beautification work done at this site, but couldn't explore for long as it was soon closing time. 






After a long and enjoyable ride back, we dropped in at Chocolate Café for a snack so filling that we decided to skip dinner. 




Christmas Day. Dressed in my almost festive clothes, I began the day by attending the 7am service at the Our Lady of Merces Church. Later, after a hearty breakfast, we spent the day visiting and wishing family. 
Before dinner, we drove up to what we know simply as Parvat. It's one of our regular haunts, this hill with the Bhutnath Chandreshwar Temple at its peak. In earlier hours, it's not uncommon to spot monkeys, peacocks and even leopards along the way uphill. We were hoping to catch a sunset, but it was a rather hazy day and so, soon after the sun had disappeared below the horizon, we headed back downhill and accompanied my cousins to their home, not far from Parvat, for a brief game of table-tennis and then, dinner. 


The day after Christmas, we planned a visit to the Reis Magos Fort. We began with a brief visit to the Reis Magos Church, named for the Three Magi who visited the Christ child in the manager.This church on the banks of the river Mandovi, is one of the only three places in Goa that celebrate the feast of the Epiphany (Three Kings' Feast) with great pomp & ceremony, on January 06. 





Standing right beside the church, is the Reis Magos Fort, a small but well-restored fort that is worth a visit. If one arrives later in the day, there is also ample opportunity to enjoy beautiful sunsets. 




After a brief, but enjoyable visit, we stopped awhile to walk around Fontainhas, the Latin quarter of Panjim. I guess it’s very quaint and has much to see, but I couldn’t much enjoy it on account of the many tourists blocking the narrow streets, clicking endless selfies. 



I suppose we could have given it more time to grow on us, but we had plans to catch the sunset at another spot, famous for more than just its panoramic views. The Three Kings Chapel, standing on a hill in Cansaulim, is said to be the most haunted place in Goa. There are numerous tales told to justify the moniker, each one just as thrilling as the last. The bit that caught my attention was a warning against looking back at a tree that stands at the entrance to the church, but I'm not sure exactly which of the many trees the warning referred to.  



When we arrived, a few workmen were setting up for the one occasion this chapel comes alive - the Feast of the Tree Kings. From three neighbouring villages in the foothills, boys aged 8-10 are chosen to be kings, complete with a crowning ceremony et al. Then, on the feast day, taking different paths, they make their way uphill to this chapel, followed by a festive crowd of people & musicians. 
After all the festivities are over, the chapel stands like a lone sentinel on the hill, with none but the famed spirits for company.


While we, most mercifully, had no run-ins with the supernatural, we did make the most of the glorious sunset over the sparkling ocean in the distance. By the time we had basked in the afterglow of the sunset, the place was deserted and we began to notice the stillness around us. The almost-full moon casting a glow on the path brought back to mind the chilling tales we had heard, and we hurried towards the exit, taking great care to ensure not to look back at any tree. In fact, we didn't look back at all...even when we left the hill far behind as we drove home. 


Salvador, still in haunted-places mood, began to speak of another lane -Jaakni Baand - somewhere in Goa, that was also best avoided at night on account of unearthly occurrences. 
Along the way, we stopped at a little shop popular for sausage-pav and cutlet-pav. We all ordered one of each and finished it in no time, realising just then, how hungry we were, having skipped lunch entirely. 


After a brief rest at the apartment, we drove towards Assolna for dinner any one of the many restaurants that lined the river. After scouting around a little, we entered Sam's and ordered much more than we could eat, not expecting such large portions as they had served. 
Dinner done, I set the map to direct us back to where my cousin had parked his car. As the night was cool and roads empty of traffic, we turned down the windows to enjoy the breeze. The route we were following took us towards a dark, narrow, winding path. Salvador suddenly sat up straight, looked around and said, "Arre! Why is this going through Jaakni Baand?"
No sooner had he said those words, we fell silent. We shrunk in our seats and quickly wound up the windows. I can swear we all felt an eerie chill envelop us and no one dared glance out the window. This was the very same haunted street we had been speaking of earlier. Hurriedly driving through the mist rolling across this ghostly lane, we realised that the map had changed path and was not leading us to the destination we had entered. Oh help!
Rerouting, we drove on, discussing the strange coincidence of being led to the very same place we had hoped to avoid. 
Needless to say, I did not sleep very well that night. Neither did Salvador. He dreamt of strange hands knocking on the windows of his car. Just hands, no body or being attached to them. Brrrr!

Our next-to-last day in Goa. 


Walking up quite later than usual, post brunch at Chocolate Cafe, we went to pick up my cousins for yet another excursion. We had decided to spend the day exploring the Anjuna Flea Market that sets up shop every Wednesday. 
Driving across the state, we parked at a lot beside the beach. The Sandy path was lined in either side with stalls selling knitted tops, beach wear, jewelry and gemstones. This stretch of shops is not, however, a part of the flea market. Prices here, though, we found to be very reasonable and, at times, even cheaper than usual. I bought myself a couple of hair sticks at a price that made me very happy.



Walking along, we soon arrived at the flea market, not very unlike the one we had just walked through. There were a larger number of stalls and colourfully dressed gypsies selling all kinds of curiosities.... jewelry, shoes, bags, spices and souvenirs. While nothing I saw was unique or out of the ordinary, everything was terribly, terribly overpriced. Why, the hair stick that I'd just purchased was tagged at four times the price in the flea market! Flea market??? More like fleece market!



Back at Mapusa market, we stopped to enjoy some Ross-Omlette at another of our usual haunts. The vendor was just setting up for the evening, and until he did, we ordered some chickoo milkshakes and cold coffee from the shop next door. 



I enjoyed the chickoo milkshake and ordered yet another to enjoy while the others in our party feasted on spicy ross-omlette and poiee. 
Later that same evening, we changed and drove to Anoshka, a popular restaurant in Loutolim. We were celebrating my aunt's silver wedding and the entire family had gathered together for dinner. Still full from binging on chickoo milkshake, I didn't eat anything save a single, crumb-fried tiger prawn. 
It was a fun evening, but the most fun we have, as always, is when we're together at home...which is what we did the next day, our last in Goa. 

My cousin, Effie picked us up from our Airbnb early the next morning and drove us to my uncle's place. Then, a while later, we went, for the last time, to Caravela for breakfast, this time, accompanied by Effie. 
 



Now, her petite self looks très petite when seated beside my husband. The hostess, now familiar with us, greeted us and expressed much joy at seeing our daughter with us. She was quite embarassed when told that the wee person was my cousin and not our child. An oops moment for her, but one that had us in splits. 

Back home, we spent the rest of the time chatting, catching-up and regaling each other with tales known & unheard of. Somewhere along the way, we enjoyed a delicious home cooked meal together, and then continued our chit-chat. These together times are what I like best. We're all absolutely ourselves, discussing and laughing over various topics and eating. These are moments in which time seems to stand still. It's like listening to the playback of a much loved song. The same faces, the cheerful banter, the loud, hearty laughter. It's all so beautifully familiar. 
But soon it was time to bid goodbye to Goa. Our brief vacation was at an end. Saying our prayers together, as we always do, we left for the Manohar International Airport.
Check-in and baggage drop were completed smoothly and we settled in at our gate with a coffee. This new airport is quite a neat one with lots of stores and ample seating. 
There was a minor delay in our flight, but that wasn't too much of a bother. 

Goa is always beautiful, and even more so during Christmas time. There are lights everywhere - houses are gaily, even garishly lit with a myriad of lights, pretty white churches are all aglow with the light of a thousand stars, handmade by the locals. At every street corner, crosses and little chapels are all dressed for the festive season. There are a series of cultural events held everywhere drawing people together in cheerful fellowship. 
Was glad to be home and in my own bed, but already glancing at the calendar to plan my next escape. Am most tempted to return to Goa soon. God willing, really soon.


Saturday, December 16, 2023

A Rural Experience

 Yesterday, two of my colleagues and I left work early to visit a rural settlement in the village of Udhwa, Maharashtra. 

Our four-hour journey began with boarding the Dahanu local from Bandra Station. Super happy to find the carriage quite empty, we placed our bags on the overhead rack and sat back to enjoy the journey, chatting away and munching on chips (the latter was mostly all me). After two hours, we were at the small, but very clean & fairly busy Dahanu Station. 

Stepping out, we decided to walk to the nearby bus depot, stopping at Chandramukhi Veg Restaurant to enjoy a simple yet deliciously light Thali. 



At the depot, we were informed that the bus to Udhwa would only leave at 2pm. Having some time to spare, we sat around sharing memories of previous ST experiences. A bus that was just leaving the depot had us believe that a lot had changed since we were last here. The rickety red busses were now blue & clean, with large windows and well-cushioned seats. 

A flurry of activity nearby had us realise that   the bus to Udahwa had arrived. It was similar to the blue one that that just departed a moment ago. Elbowing our way through the crowd, we entered the bus and found our seats when the tc shooed us off saying there was a delay as they had to change the bus. 

We got off the bus and waited by the side. After about ten minutes the new bus came to a rumbling halt in front of us. It was the rickety red one of our nightmares. Rushing in, we grabbed our seats while other passengers scurried to theirs. Soon, the tc stepped into the bus, smiling like Mickey Mouse. He looked at the bus, now filled with faces that, for him, were mostly familiar. He smiled and said, ‘Hmmm’ before starting to give out tickets. 

We booked three tickets to Udhwa, asking him to let us know when we reached Loharpada. 

Now, here’s a little clarity about…er…the lay of the land. The village of Udhava is located in the Palghar district of Maharashtra, in the Talasari taluka. The village is divided into various little hamlets known as padas. These are clusters of not more than 15-16 houses with vast expanses of fields separating one pada from the next. The inhabitants are tribals, working the soil and leading simple lives. 

While there has been much progress since our last visit ages ago, there’s still a long way to go. I’ll tell you more about this as we move along. 

A little over an hour and 41 kms later the tc, still remembering our request, stopped  the bus at Loharpada, right outside the convent gates. However, we had to walk a few short metres to get to where our host was waiting for us by the side of the road. Walking into Dongripada, we received a warm welcome at the boarding school where we would be spending the day. This boarding school provides food and safe shelter to 16 young, school/college-going girls. The boarding house itself reflects the simplicity of the people it houses. 

When we arrived, the girls were busy practising for the soon approaching Christmas celebrations. 

Keeping our bags inside, we freshened-up and sat in the courtyard, sipping on hot, lemongrass flavoured tea, freshly prepared. That done, we accompanied Sister on her visit to the families of Dongripada. 




As I mentioned earlier, these villages & padas are home to the tribal community. Their homes, made largely of bamboo and mud, are simple, mostly bare of luxurious entrapments, and thoroughly suit the simplistic life they lead. Inside, there is kitchen set up in one corner with shining utensils standing nearby, and silos holding rice, home-grown through the sweat of their brow and the strength of their back. These indoor silos are large bins made of coconut palm caked with a layer of mud. Once it’s filled with grain, it’s sealed with a cover of leaves, layered over with mud and then the palm mat. All this protects the grain from rats and keeps it safe for daily consumption by the family, until the next harvest season. 






Most houses have a courtyard in which we found an assortment of birds and animals. Chickens, cows, goats, dogs, cats and, surprisingly, even a turkey. Then there are the children - with large curious eyes & chubby-cheeks, they hide shyly behind their mothers, braving a peek every now and again. A few, after much encouragement, tell us their name and share beautiful smiles.

 

The stories willingly shared by the families tell tales that made us, both happy and sad. While it’s great that many are choosing to be educated, even walking long distances to get to school, jobs are not easy to secure, leading to much disappointment. 

We met a father whose sons - one a B.Sc Graduate, the second an Engineer and the third, with an MBA degree, were all unemployed and having to make do with working in local factories or in the farm for a pittance. 

Two sisters, one a seamstress and the other who previously worked in a factory, had a similar story to tell. 


We also visited a mother who spoke of her daughter, a girl of 8, who had suddenly stopped going to school since the last couple of months. No one had been able to get through to her or understand why she claimed to be ‘scared’ to go to school. A few probing questions made me believe a child psychologist was needed to assist in this situation, but sadly, no such help is available here. So the family just prays over her, hoping she’ll snap out of the phase. 


But even while one recognises the many needs of this rural community, we cannot miss the joy they find in the simple lives they lead. Their bright smiles shine through their difficulties, forcing us to look within at what we, in the big cities, have left far behind. 

With these thoughts bearing heavily in our hearts and minds, we walked along to the convent, to greet the Sisters living there. Through them, we learnt about the many successes and struggles faced by rural schools. There is a dearth of good quality, dedicated teachers as almost no one wants to work in these remote villages where challenges are far more than the resources available. 



That evening, back at the boarding house, we sat once again in the courtyard, sharing our experiences & observations of the day. In addition, we gleaned some more information about the boarding and the villagers, from our host. 

Finally, after a wholesome meal of pulses, bhakri and some khichdi, we were ready to call it a day. It was only a little after 10pm by the time we had bathed and rolled out our sleeping mats. Very early by city standards, I know, but here in the village, it was time for bed. 


The next morning, at 5am, we were woken by the sounds of the girls getting ready for a new day, their anklets tinkling as they moved around, filling their buckets at the hand pump just outside the door. It was bath time for them, following which they, all neatly dressed, made their way to school & college. The frequency of busses and autos is very poor, so most children often walk for hours to get to school, requiring an early start to the day. 


Since we were up, we, too, changed out of our night clothes and decided to take a walk. The morning was very chilly and the road was deserted as we walked along. We waited to watch the rising sun colour the sky in pink and gold, enjoying the silence cut only by a few roosters in the distance and the soothing strains of the morning Aarti, that the wind was carrying across the fields. Silver dew drops sparkled on the leaves and shrubs that served as fences for the village homes. 





We were glad of the hot breakfast of roti and omlette, and the even hotter glass of tea that did much to shake the cold off our bones. 

After breakfast, we headed off to a neighbouring pada to visit a few more families. The stories were the same as were the smiles. 

We also paid a visit to a primary school run by the Zilla Parishad. Of its two classrooms, only one was occupied by 30 little scholars with bright faces and neat, blue uniforms. The girls also had lovely blue ribbons in their hair and the class. The students, in a sing-song voice, greeted us with a ‘Good Morning, Madam. Namaste.’ Encouraged by their very enthusiastic teacher (a rare species in this corner of the world), they recited for us some poems and songs in English and Marathi. Their sweet voices and the obvious pride on the teacher’s face had us asking ourselves, once again, ‘how could we help?’



Holding that thought, we made our way back to the boarding house for a short period of rest. We spent a while discussing the village and the school we had just visited. Meanwhile, having prepared our lunch, Catherine, the very cheerful helper, had started with getting lunch ready for the girls who were already returning from school. A few girls were already in the dormitory, sitting at their desks, studying. 

We decided to have an early lunch in order to catch the bus back to Dahanu station. The meal that afternoon, comprised of rice, dal and a mildly spiced preparation of green peas. Simple, wholesome and delicious! 


Bidding goodbye to Sister and thanking her for her generous hospitality, we walked out to the main road & sat waiting for the bus. The red rattler soon arrived, this time filled almost entirely with students. At Talasari they spilled out of the bus, leaving us to enjoy our long and comfortable ride to Dahanu station, for the better part of which I was asleep. I guess I must have been quite tired for even the jarring sound of the door banging shut at frequent intervals failed to disturb me.  

We next boarded the 2pm train from Dahanu. It was empty when we boarded, but got very crowded at Palghar, and then empty again when the sea of passengers disembarked at Virar. Do, our journey passed in comfort and relative silence as we sat reading, buying trinkets from train vendors and even some locally grown vegetables. 

The brief visit to Udhava was a most enjoyable one, and one that was very thought provoking. While one cannot deny that things have changed - better roads, more empowered women, a marginal increase in income for some & more girls going to school - there is much more that needs be done to aid and assist the overall well-being of the villagers and quality of education in the rural schools. 

Bear in mind that I am not referring to merely monetary aid. Their lives are simple, their needs are few and their smiles are genuine. In that, they are far richer than any of us. 

I speak more of being generous with time and talent, in whatever way we can, as often as we can. We, who consider ourselves blessed with plenty, need to build larger tables, sharing our blessings with others, and in doing so, be blessed in return.